I push myself to be a man of words, to be trustworthy and reliable. I set a high standard to myself, to be on time and to keep my promises. There is a saying in Chinese, “be strict to yourself and be tolerant to the others.” Lately, I have found it difficult to hang out or even, talk to the people I call friends. It frustrates me when they constantly let me down on the small things. Some might say, sure, but they will step up when it truly matters. I don’t know, it is hard to believe in that when one can’t even deliver in a smaller scale.
Trust can be easily broken but hard to rebuild. I couldn’t just trust a person who has failed me many times just by the word the person said. Words are merely words until they are backed up by actions.
I am tired from all these empty promises people make. I feel trust is the most important thing between two friends. If I can’t trust the person, I don’t know if we can still be friends.
I pray to you, Rita, to give me strength, to get over this low time of my life.
In a classroom, the teacher was telling students a story –
A couple finally made it in front of lifeboat during a marine peril. However, there was one space left in the boat. Suddenly, the man pulled the woman behind him and jumped onto the lifeboat. While the ship was sinking, the woman shouted to the man…
The teacher pulsed and asked students, “guess what did the woman say?”
Students replied with rage, “I hate you, I can’t believe I trusted you.”
The teacher noticed there was a student didn’t say a word, so he asked the student about his opinion, the student replied, “I think the woman shouted — please take good care of our children!”
The teacher was surprised, then asked, “have you heard the story already?”
The student shook his head and replied, “no, but before my mother passed away, that is what she said to my father.”
The teacher responded with emotions, “that, was exactly what the woman said.”
After the ship sank, the man return to home and raised his daughter by himself. After many years, the man passed away from illness, as his daughter sorting out the things he left behind, she found her father’s diary.
The truth was, while her parents were on the cruise ship, her mother was already very ill. At the crucial moment, her father went for the last chance to survive, in the diary, he wrote, “I want to sink into the ocean and stay with you forever, but I can’t. For our daughter, I must leave you rest in peace in the deep sea on your own.”
As the story finished, the classroom was in complete silence. The teacher knew that students already understood the meaning of the story – there is no clear line to separate the good and evil in this world, it is complicated, hence, we shouldn’t judge others merely by what we see on the surface.
People who are happy to pay for the bill at a meal, not because they have too much money, but because they value friendship more than money.
People who are willing to take on more tasks at work, not because they are foolish, but because they prefer being responsible.
People who apologize first after a fight, not necessary because they are at fault, but because they cherish the person more.
People who are happy to help you, not because they own you anything, but because they take you as a close friend.
People who contacts you often, not because they have no life, but because they care about you.
Original Article 原文
“I care for you so dearly and this is about as far as I can go,
Your happiness is all I ask for,
But soon, I know I will have to let you go,
Whatever your choice would be, I would support,
Let you go and let myself go…”
With all honesty, I did not have many friends in Taiwan. It is a unfortunate truth, the result of studying abroad since the age of 15. Hence, I am really happy that I made a few good friends during basic training and now specialize training. The head instructor said this at the opening session: “Every encounter is destined, cherish it and you will make great friends.” Although the world is so well connected, the distance does not seem as long as before but I still think this sentence has great value within.
Perhaps you only want one or two “BBF” (best friend forever) but I am sure you do not want one or two more enemy. I recall there is a saying, “a friend made is one less enemy.” Of course, I do not think anyone can be BBF with everyone they are friends with but I believe in building bridges with others, making a connection is a way to change the world for the better.
I cherish all the friends I have made and I hope you would as well. I admit that I am not great at keeping in touch but I hold the memories in my heart.
It’s been several times I have witness this act in the hospital and I am personally very touched. I would like to think of it as an act of true love and every time as I witness it, I want to cry (I feel that I want to cry a lot in the past month…)
What is it? I think you are all very curious at this point. An old man singing to his wife who couldn’t even respond to him. They are both at least at the age of 85 above. He would just hold her hand and sing to her. I think she could hear it but I am not even sure. The point is, he doesn’t care if she could or couldn’t. I bet it is her favorite song… He is always there every time when I go visit my grandma. He still cares so much and loves her. I can’t really use words to describe how moved I am but only hope that I would do the same for my not-yet-existed wife in the future. If what he does is not an act of unconditional love, I don’t know what is.
Something is bugging me but it might be just my imagination or over-thinking… knowing the old me, it could very possibly be just all in my head. In case it is not, here is what I have to say about the occurrence. If you don’t want to talk to me, that’s fine, you can just tell me. I will respect that and won’t ever bug you anymore. I don’t think being treated this way is what I deserve but that’s just a part of life. I will live with it and I apologize for whatever I might have done to lead our friendship to this point. Would love to know what happened but I guess I will never know and I am ok with that. I think I got your point now…